When I try to write exactly what I think or try to express exactly what I mean, I usually say terrible things they do indeed do more harm than what they really mean.
why I am usually very careful what I say.
Or vice versa, when I want people to Arreche me, I get "raw."
Any person who has a bit of healing in your mind may be thinking: What the hell I want to annoy people? If you usually all the guides of emotional intelligence, people management and the majority of psychologists in the world speak of the effectiveness of assertiveness, I come and use assertiveness as a weapon.
My response, besides simple, has a rather interesting way: To generate a reactive effect contrary to my views.
I descuebierto something interesting: People have opinions, people are not. What I mean is that when there is an individual opinion, man by nature tends to accept or reject it, the more the masses in general tend to follow the behavior of the individual, in other words, people seem more of a flock that is led by those who believe.
And personally it takes me out of my boxes.
In my work I have to propose ideas usually completely crazy, always having to consider many viewpoints and perspectives, always looking for common points and analyzing the conditions for a solution that meets the needs of all. But when I propose an idea and nobody believes me frustrated.
frustrates me the only person who sees the problem in all its completeness, it frustrates me that people are very accommodating and I tend to be very detail, to see the bad side of things, to be critical at all. And I would like everyone to be critical me. The problem is that most of the time they are not, because given my personal skills, there are times that I follow blindly.
not get me wrong, I like my views are taken into account and I have an important weight in decision-making, but we really prefer that all the guidance in the decisions that I only phone and other follow me blindly.
So sack people from their boxes. I do react, and even when I tell them I'm going to go crazy, can not help it.
almost a year ago, talking with some friends, I told them clearly that would bother. Knowing beliefs and values, intentionally used a very valid arguments about the meaning of "assertiveness." For me, assertiveness is to give a message so that it is aware of the other's response, and moreover, to have that effective response to the parties to understand. For the rest of the known world, assertiveness should always be positive. If you notice, the fundamental difference is that I use assertiveness to generate the desired effect, be the "good" or "right." Obviously, chaos erupted in the conversation, but my friends, even though he was making direct use of assertiveness to create chaos, never agreed with me.
I'm not saying is right, but it is too interesting to see how a well-formed message can get a desired effect.
That's why I have to induce chaos most of the time in my work, to generate a reaction and avoid herd behavior.
Anyway, this may be a bit of noise to see if this genre a little fun and always necessary controversy ...
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